My Twin Flame Just Wants To Be Friends?
We get a lot of questions about the twin flame relationship here at Spiritual Unite. All sorts of questions too – how to meet them, how to recognise them, what to expect from the relationship.
People place so much importance on the twin flame relationship.
And for a good reason. The twin flame relationship is the most spiritually significant relationship we will have, in this life and others.
It is vital that we know what to expect from our twin flame relationship so that we can grasp the purpose of it and get the most out of the karmic lessons it can offer.
A lot of confusion about the twin flame relationship stems from a core misunderstanding of the purpose of the relationship and the many forms it can take.
A Twin With A Thousand Faces
The twin flame relationship is commonly seen as a romantic, sexual and lifelong relationship.
In other words, those with only a passing familiarity with the twin flame relationship assume that we are meant to marry our twin flame, or at least be in a similar relationship with them.
This simply is not true.
While most twin flames do end up in this kind of relationship, it is not even nearly all of them. A considerable number of twin flame relationships take a different form.
Here are some of the forms a twin flame relationship can take:
- Traditional romantic.
- Platonic friendship.
- Teacher-student.
- Long distance relationship.
That is not an exhaustive list. And it should be pointed out that no form of the twin flame relationship is superior to another.
The twin flame relationship will take whatever form it needs to take in order to fulfil its purpose.
“Just” Friends
So if our twin flame expresses that they only want to be friends, we should first accept their decision. Above all else, we must respect the choices of others.
After all, they are on their own spiritual journey too. They need to look after their energies and their own progress.
And this might be frustrating. We might genuinely believe that this twin flame relationship is destined to be more than “just friends”.
We might think that we are intended to be with our twin flame in a romantic way.
But the problem with thinking like this is that we are not “just friends”, no matter the relationship we strike up with our twin flame.
Friendship is just as powerful a relationship as romance or marriage or any of those other things.
The fact is, we do not need that kind of commitment from our twin flame. We are already one in the vastness of consciousness. They do not owe you a romantic relationship.
I think I might be in this predicament. Until I met my ‘TF’ I had no idea what a TF was. We met about 2 years ago. We are the best of friends, we have an incredible connection; spiritually, emotionally and intellectually. She is my mirror as they say in all the TF articles. But we are ‘just friends’. She is 16 years younger and I am a married man. but our ‘relationship’ definitely is deeper than just friendship. While neither of us has ever expressed any desire to be romantically involved in any way, and on my part while I do think she’s the most beautiful creature in the world, I have never had any lustful thoughts of her nor have I ever tried to cross any line. We have the utmost respect for each other. We love each other deeply. We’ve held each other through good and bad. But our relationship while platonic has these ‘undertones’ of a romantic partnership. We tend to agree on most things but when we fight it can be explosive. There is that push and pull dynamic. We get to a point where we uncover layers of each other and get very close emotionally and spiritually… but when we get to a certain level of closeness she tends to ‘run’. There are so many different reasons that have lead me to believe that we are TFs. Most if not all the supposed signs of TF I have identified and how they apply to our dynamic. Meeting under serendipitous circumstances, that feeling of being home, that feeling of knowing each other before; the age difference, the fact that while I’m emotionally available I’m not really available due to my martial status, and she while being single, seems to be emotionally unavailable as she has always stated how being a in a relationship scares her and has a hard time opening up her heart for love.
The fact that she’s that mirror that reflects back to me the things I need to work on. We have shared dreams, independently dreaming the same things/themes/ characters etc. Whether it is a TF situation or not i don’t know however that there is a strong bond/connection is too evident to ignore it’s significance.
Either way, I have started to wonder if perhaps TF are not necessarily meant to be romantic…. and that’s what led me here. Our age gap is a huge stumbling block as I know how she feels about big age gap relationships.
We are currently in ‘separation’ as some would say, after having had another discord and are just now starting to ‘reconnect’… but things feel like they are moving slow and feels like the relationship has changed… I have realized many things about myself that I need to work on… namely self love. Which is really the big lesson i feel this whole experience has taught me.
I don’t know what will happen in the future… my marriage has been on the rocks for well over 10 years now and my ‘TF’ coming in the picture to ‘wake me up’ because it has only been since she came in the picture that I began my spiritual journey. Matter of fact we’ve each been incredibly influential and have had a significant impact in each other’s lives as it pertained to our awakening.
I know I need to let go and let god… but I can’t seem to live without her… I miss her terribly when she’s not around… but I know I need to be whole and happy on my own before anything can progress.
thanks for reading… just needed to vent to anyone who will listen and understand what I might be going through. any thoughts?